How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips

How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips


Brainy Dose Presents: How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological
Tips When we are meeting someone for the first
time, we are bombarded with information. It can be hard to work out what kind of person
they are. That’s why it’s important to understand
HOW we communicate. According to experts, 55% of what we convey
comes from body language, 38% from the tone of voice, and only 7% from what we actually
say. This means that when we meet someone for the
first time, we have to take into account these three factors – in addition to what a person’s
appearance may suggest. So, if you want to gain insight into someone’s
personality when you first meet them, pay attention to the following clues – starting
from the head down! Number 1 – Eye Contact They often say that the eyes are the window
to the soul. The key to knowing which kind of eye contact
someone is giving you, is to consider the context. For example, if a person literally can’t
take their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. On the other hand, when you look someone in
the eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’re
either nervous, or they’ve got something to hide. That said, if you’re talking with someone
whose stare is making you squirm – especially if they’re very still and not blinking – something
is definitely up, and they may be lying to you. Number 2 – Eyebrows If you want to see how comfortable a person
is, take a look at their eyebrows! There are three main emotions that make your
eyebrows go up: surprise, worry, and fear. Try raising your eyebrows when you’re having
a relaxed casual conversation with a friend. It’s hard to do, isn’t it? If someone talking to you raises their eyebrows,
and the topic isn’t one that would logically cause surprise, worry, or fear, it’s a sign
that they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable. Number 3 – Lips These days, more and more people plump up
their lips with Botox injections. But it turns out, that those with lovely full
lips are deemed to be childlike and immature. These baby-faced people may also be judged
as naive and submissive. On the other hand, thin lips are deemed to
be distinguished. They are associated with intelligence and
determination. Number 4 – Smile When it comes to smiling, the mouth can lie,
but the eyes can’t. Genuine smiles reach the eyes, crinkling the
skin to create crow’s feet around them. People often smile to hide what they’re
really thinking and feeling, so the next time you want to know if somebody’s smile is
genuine, look for crinkles at the corners of their eyes. If they aren’t there, that smile is hiding
something! Number 5 – What They Say If you’re meeting someone for the first
time, and all they do is talk about their wonderful better half or praise their work
colleagues, chances are, they’re a pretty decent person themselves. Studies show, that the more people rate others
as being kind, polite, loving and well-mannered, the more likely they are to also possess these
traits. However, the reverse is also true. Anyone backstabbing and describing others
as manipulative and nasty, is more likely to have these traits themselves. It’s also possible that they have a history
of depression or personality disorder. Number 6 – Paralanguage Paralanguage is nonverbal communication such
as your tone, pitch or manner of speaking. Basically, it’s a fancy way of saying that
you need to pay attention to how someone says something. For example, if someone is answering you in
monotone, they’re most likely unattached to your concept and not interested. The use of sarcasm is another good example. When someone uses sarcasm, what the person
means is actually the opposite of what the words say. So, pay attention to the emphasis they put
on words and how they say it. It gives you a big clue as to what their true
intentions are. Number 7 – Side Glance People that are warm and open to meeting you,
will have their body facing you and they will look you in the eye. On the flip side, if you’ve just met someone
and they immediately glance away to the side, this is a subconscious body language sign
that means they are looking for an escape. Number 8 – Frequent Nodding Nodding is usually a sign that someone agrees
with you. But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety,
about approval. When you’re telling someone something, and
they nod excessively, this means that they are worried about what you think of them,
or that you doubt their ability to follow your instructions. On the other hand, frequent nodding could
also be unconscious gestures that are cues for the other person to get a move on – just
like when a person keeps looking at their watch or touches their car keys. Number 9 – Chin And Jaw When someone is trying to make a decision,
they tend to rub their chin. They might be looking up, down, or to the
side… It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought. A clenched jaw is a sign of stress. Regardless of what the person is saying, this
indicates a considerable level of discomfort. The conversation may be heading toward something
they’re anxious about; or their mind may be elsewhere, and they’re focusing on the
thing that’s stressing them out. Number 10 – Posture How someone carries themselves can give you
some indications about their self confidence. For example, if someone is walking upright
with their shoulders back and looking straight ahead, that gives the indication that they
feel good about themselves and have confidence. However, if someone is slouching over and
looking at the ground when they walk, that gives a much different impression. It may not necessarily mean that they have
low self-esteem, but that’s the message it gives off. Number 11 – Rubbing Hands It is believed that the hands broadcast what
the head is thinking. When a person is rubbing their hands together,
generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something. People usually do this when they are hopeful
about something good coming up in the future, and they’re excited about it. Number 12 – Handshake You can tell a lot by a person’s handshake. Soft and flabby – and they are likely to be
submissive or a pushover. Too hard and crushing – and they are possibly
domineering types. The length of time is also important. Too long and it’s weird, but too short could
indicate some form of conflict. It’s possible that the person does not want
to make a deep connection with you. But, it could also mean that they don’t
have much time. Number 13 – Leaning In, Or Away If a person leans in toward you, it’s a
clear indication that they are interested in what you have to say. What you might not know, is that it’s also
a sign of respect. When people come closer and lean in toward
you during a conversation, it shows that they want to confide in you. It makes you feel trustworthy and valued. If someone leans back however, they show that
they are tired of the conversation, or perhaps they feel uncomfortable for some reason. Number 14 – Holding The Baby Ok…this might seem like a strange one, but
it’s good to know. If you’re meeting someone for the first
time, and they just happen to be a new mother, look at what arm they use to hold the baby. Studies show that happy moms tend to hold
their babies in their left arm. While stressed and depressed mothers usually
hold their babies in their right arm. Number 15 – Crossed Arms And Legs Have you ever had a conversation with someone
who crossed their arms or legs while you were talking to them? If you’re on a first date, or if you’re
trying to pitch someone a new idea, it’s not a good sign. Crossed arms and legs are physical barriers
that suggest the other person is not open to what you’re saying. Even if they’re smiling and engaged in a
pleasant conversation, their body language tells the story. Psychologically, crossed legs or arms, signal
that a person is mentally, emotionally, and physically blocked off from what’s in front
of them. On the same note, the direction of someone’s
feet are also quite revealing. A person that likes you, will have both feet
facing in your direction. However, if their feet shift toward the door,
it means they’ve had enough and want to leave. Number 16 – Shoes A person’s shoes can tell you a lot about
their personality. Apparently, we all make judgments about people’s
shoes, but studies show that they are pretty accurate. – Nervous people will have new or very clean
shoes – Amiable types will wear practical shoes – Calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable
shoes – And aggressive people wear ankle boots Just take a look at your own shoes. Does your personality type fit in with them? Number 17 – Overall Appearance How someone dresses and presents themselves
can say volumes about them. If the person has their hair in place, their
clothing pressed, and they show attention to style, they may be very detail oriented. Someone with a more casual wardrobe or “bed
head” might be creative, or just messy. And then take someone who looks unkempt and
smelly – they could simply be a really lazy person. Number 18 – Copying Body Language If you’ve never tried to read people before,
this is something you probably haven’t noticed. But, pay close attention to it in the future,
because when someone mimics your body language, it means they feel so good about you, that
they want to harmonize with you. It’s a sign that the conversation is going
well and that the other party is receptive to your message. This is done unconsciously – as no one walks
around with the intention of outright copying someone. But when we’re comfortable with people,
we have a tendency to do what they do. Some of us are pretty good at reading the
signs that people give off. While others are so bad, that they need the
other person to come out and straight-up tell them what’s on their mind. Reading people isn’t easy, but if you can
do it, it’s a fantastic skill to have. Of course, everyone is different, so interpreting
their words and actions may or may not always be accurate. But hopefully, with these tips, you’ll be
well on your way to becoming better at reading people. We want to know what you think! When you’re meeting someone for the first
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100 thoughts on “How To Read Anyone Instantly – 18 Psychological Tips”

  1. Thanks for watching! Remember, these signs are not set in stone! Everyone is different, so interpreting their appearance, words and actions may or may not always be accurate, and there are always exceptions. Please keep this in mind when reading people!

  2. I think im good at reading people. But it makes me sad when I think no one can read me like I read them. Is that weird? Sometimes I just wish I was an open book. So someone would understand me :–: but at the same time its horrifying because im such a negative person these days. And I dont think im worth the effort of getting to know properly because I shift so weirdly. I just feel like a different person somedays. And I regret the entire day afterwards. Its like a mindset switch that keeps changing gears inconviniently

  3. Disagree about the baby arm. I have always held babies in my right arm. Even grandbabies. Its my stronger arm. My dominant arm.

  4. #3 lips: I was born with kinda thick lips… does that mean I am a bad person?
    #6 Paralanguage: I was born tone deaf… does that mean I am a bad person?
    #16 Shoes: I prefer cowboy boots… Does that mean I am crazy?

  5. I don't know why fuller lips are deemed childish and thin lips are considered wiser but I'm sure there's a race component involved.

  6. I have natural plump full lips but high IQ but I guess I can be a little naive and gullible just a little

    I’m not baby faced

  7. Physiologically crossing your arms does not show a sence of blocking out someone but in fact is a sign that the person is insecure about something along with covering their mouth or other related gestures.

  8. If you’re judging me by my shoes. By the end of the month you’ll be confused cause I have every type of shoe imaginable! And also I will always hold a baby in my right arm as that is my dominant side. I don’t agree with all of these. 🤷🏼‍♀️

  9. I have a monotone voice, always have but I'm very interested in most of the conversations I have.. my voice just doesn't emote.

  10. I dont talk about good or bad in people so i guess im not a good or bad person. Just ruthlessly informative that can be very potentially good for people. Almost everybody doesnt care even though its almost always about something crucial they think im annoying. Guess im not good or bad. That usually leads to a long streak of bare minimal talking and eye contact but polite still. Good fung shway is the best form of positive energy with zero or minimal contact. I prefer that over everything including positive attention. It is being truly free of everything. Even happiness. It is very invigorating and self gratifying with self respect. It compliments minimal worry and calmness for my heart condition. Reguardless of depressing side affects

  11. Looking into peoples eyes makes me forget what im going to say next as well as words especially when their pupils are dialated.

  12. Cross legs in Europe is pretty standard, unlike the USA. Royals have to cross their legs especially women. Many things are also culturally. For example, East Asians always look down instead of looking you straight in the eyes. It's a sign of being polite.

  13. ShortBus Productions

    I look right into a person like I am trying to see their soul. No one messes with me. People have a lot to hide because I have NOTHING and I am as real as they come.

  14. In a few hundred thousands of years most of the race will see each others auras , then it will be very hard to lie about anything .

  15. I am naturally pretty good with people and naturally don’t do a lot of off putting things but do positive things instead. I do sometimes kind of wag my index finger with my center finger and will reconsider doing that. It’s true that I do it when I am trying to make a strong point in order to influence the other person.

  16. Sorry, but these are cliches. Some are entirely untrue. Crossing arms or legs is comfortable. I just tried raising my eyebrow in a happy mood and was able to. Gaze is also a cultural thing. In my culture, it is disrespectful to look one straight in the eye.

  17. Some of these are null and void if a person is hard of hearing or deaf because they most likely will need to move in and/do whatever is necessary to hear or see what the person is saying.

  18. Definitely look to the ground while I walk. Not because I have low self esteem, but focused on what my next move will become and not worrying about what people think.

  19. Psychoanalysis, Psychology, Psychiatry, and other "Psych"'s are not truly anything other than complex and symbolical, and coded, (as in signals for "their own"), labels for the actions themselves, and, usually limit massive populations of humans by "marketing" and by grouping populations based on violent attacks as creating "The Politics", and encourage and courage violent attacks to then create more "markets" for their "consultations"/"advice"/"one-on-ones"/"meetings"/"talks"/"speeches"/…

  20. Jeffrey Beauregard

    Guess I'm agressive,and not interested, can t wait to get away,and depressed,lol,I watch the ground as I walk,found money many times,I don't put up with bullcrap,and I'm really not interested in bringing people into my life

  21. A lot of this is just the stuff that we’ve been conditioned to THINK OF as signifiers by film and television. Not a lot insightful. And a lot of it doesn’t apply to introverts or neuroatypical (for instance, too much eye contact can easily feel overly intimate or threatening, so avoiding eye contact is done out of POLITENESS, not detachment.

    A separate point with regard to the “quickly glancing away”: my experience just as often this is a sign that the person is INTERESTED, as they don’t want to make you uncomfortable by putting you on the spot (Look for their expression before AND after ).

    This has occurred on a couple occasions where someone quickly looked away when my eyes crossed theirs, and I’ve been generally correct in assuming that if I start flirting it’s going to go somewhere.

    Then again I’m a lesbian so this might not be a universal dynamic.

  22. Yo why is the volume of this video so low. I have alr maxed out the volume level in my speaker and yet I still barely can hear anything from this. Please help.

  23. Sarcasm is culturally conditioned, and crossed arms or legs, is a relaxing position for many. The “holding baby thing”, is just stupid, unless you know, which hand they prefer to use in general, maybe then, can there be drawn an correlation. Furthermore, is there no scientific evidence on what you are suggesting at the beginning of the video – the percentages doesn’t match the reality. Otherwise, it was informative, when you are trying to read extrovert personality’s, but introverts, not so much.. Also leave out the obvious parts.. Thanks 😇

  24. Our body language can tell her to only to a degree of what a person is thinking emotionally so you can't be believing what you have said to be true in all cases. A WM

  25. # 7 – could also mean they have ADD.. I’ve always had a problem with body language because especially in today’s world, there are multiple reasons why people are unable to partake in these motions because of mental or physical issues. I can disagree with all of these but I’m not going to get into why.

  26. I did learn something about myself in this video. Though you can't expect to learn all the psychological basics of another person's behavior in a short video, it does present truth to at least one of the points with each topic presented. Good job.

  27. In a man: – firm handshake – natural friendliness – their writing

    In a woman: – attire – conversation – cleanliness & tidyness – pleasant disposition

  28. I'm always moving my eyebrows when I'm expressing myself. I do it without meaning to. I can move them both separately…As for (6) I've found through living my life (I'm 63) that It does "take one to know one". I've used this maxim to improve myself…

  29. Thin lips are mostly sign of repressed emotions personalities, not just development of intellect. Thicker lips are thicker when naturally because of tendency of the body of producing pleasure and and deep contact with their own ability of senses of the body letting emotions be and not just intellect.

  30. When you are a balanced personality you can see the good in others when it is there as well as when there is manipulative evil behaviors, you don't have to be extremist to have a sane personality.

  31. Looking down is also a sign of reflection of one's thoughts and experiences or sensations on the body, and in excess when you are sad and are trying to heal your heart before any other experience enters your exhausted state. Or in deceiving people is because you watched a lie fro them and their game is being exposed.

  32. Looking down is also a sign of reflection of one's thoughts and experiences or sensations on the body or reflection of something they just heard or perceived, and in excess when you are sad and are trying to heal your heart before any other experience enters your exhausted state. Or in deceiving people is because you watched a lie from them and their game is being exposed, in this case it is down and to one side without much reflection.

  33. High heels are not comfortable shoes, and ankle shoes are not sign of aggressive people, boots are comfortable and they are good shoes for expedition and exploration. They reveal that they walk a lot.

  34. In fact there is a lot of people lost in the identity field trying to copy others in a superficial way and social position and admiration, and some people try to manipulate and make think that they understand you by mimicking your body position to get something out of you that you may not agree with.

  35. The Communication Model by Prof Albert Mehrabian quoted at the start of the video that Body language is 55%, tone is 38% and words are 7% was researched in the context of comparing face-to-face communication versus over-the-phone communication. It is not used on its own alone so it is inaccurate to quote just the percentages.

  36. I disagree with most of these ,it gives the wrong impression about introverts,also i have plumper full lips,and i am berry intell u gent, or howeva you spel it.😎😘

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